Full Spectrum Sexuality

“Into?”

Many gay, bi, and queer men I work with want better sex. Whether that’s with his partner, or the guy he just met on grindr (or both!). But with so much sex available, why do so many of us feel unsatisfied?

Many of us are caught in following sexual scripts. We kiss, we suck, we lick, we fuck, we cum… and it’s over. If we’re lucky we might have a nice chat beforehand. These scripts are often given to us through porn, and they’re repeated so frequently in dates that we come to believe that this is the only way to have sex. This can lead to sex feeling routine, predictable, and most commonly - disconnected.

Connection

That thing we all crave deep inside - to feel deeply connected to another being. Sex is one of the most intimate, connective acts we can enjoy. Yet in gay culture, most of our models demonstrate sex as sport - fun, active, but you leave without having ever really known the other team. And in order to play that sport well, you must perform. We put on our masks to make ourselves seem more attractive. We perform the sex that we think our partner wants. We’re often out of touch with our deeper desires, and with the depth of pleasure we could be experiencing.

In a culture full of judgment and internalized homophobia, many of us feel insecure about our bodies or cocks, doubting our sexual worth. When we bring our histories of pain and shame into our erotic encounters, it can be understandably difficult to open up.

As men, we’re socialized into hiding our emotions. In a sexual culture that prizes masculinity, we’re again told that only certain feelings are allowed in the bedroom. We often end up shutting down part of our emotional selves, fearing we won’t be accepted if we show our true self.

We often settle for this because we don’t know what else is out there - what sex could feel like, when our full self is able to show up. If you’re wanting more from your sex - more connection, more intimacy, more pleasure - you’ve come to the right place.

Owning Your Erotic Power

I work with gay, bi, and queer men to help you open up to express your authentic self, so you can cultivate the erotic and intimate connections you long for.

Many of us are cut off from our true desire. Getting into the body helps you feel into what you want most - both in physical and emotional intimacy.

Opening up to your deeper desires can be scary, especially with someone you don’t know. I provide a space where you get to practice owning and communicating your desires, your curiosities, your limits, and your boundaries. I seek to honor and welcome whatever emotions may arise as you explore your erotic self.

Loving your body and experiencing pleasure that is free of fear can be deeply healing for your sexuality - one of the deepest parts of your being. Cultivating erotic intelligence means stepping into greater freedom and connection. Owning your erotic power is the first step to being fully alive.